You may have seen it on news shows…
Athletic Clubs with cardio programs where members jump up and down as if using a jump rope but don’t really have a rope to jump. Why? The club doesn’t want people to feel bad if they can’t jump rope like others in the class… …or feel bad if they mess up in front of people not messing up.
How about the no tryouts, no exercise, no activities pep clubs that provide a uniform, trophy at the end of the season and certificate saying they are, “PEP FANtastic!” Really, this is no joke and it is not a knock-off of the ABC TV show “The Middle” where daughter Sue is the easy-to-recognize enabled student with no clue how to compete… and she is not taught how by parents or teachers or the church or synagogues, or her horoscope.
So, should schools do the about the same thing in math, history, chemistry, business, accounting and insurance as the athletic club does for its members? How about a prize for attempting to clean up the oil spill in the gulf or attempting put a man on the moon! “What?”, you say, “That wouldn’t make sense???!!!” Of course it doesn’t make sense! But that’s what is being done in education due to myopicos like Alfie Kohn. Ya, the one and only who writes as an education ‘expert’ for The Huffington Post blog….
Competition is what is. It starts with the struggle out of the birth canal. For many it ends with seeing who can live the longest with the most toys, or experiences, or charities, or wives, or single malt Scotches. We learn to eat, to live, to work and to mate and there is a competitive component in every second of it. Those that don’t compete never learn skills that they can use in life later on to provide for their families, communities and the world. And then we wonder why we are with competitive academics in the world, or why there are more and more 3rd world foreign-borns in colleges and universities, engineering schools, MBA programs, Ph.D. programs, medical schools, etc. [No, that is not bigotry; it is that they get it!] The answer is competition. They are serious about it and we (whoever that means) aren’t serious about it.
Perhaps it is a vestige of our ‘Man-is-superior-to-all-the-rest-of-the-animals; we don’t compete like they do!’ shtick. How’s that workin these days. Are we winning any competitive wars you’ve noticed?
In fact, we’re frequently going in the opposite direction due to the early years being filled with the ‘help’ being offered from the very beginning. Businesses from McDonald’s to McDonald-Douglas spend billions every year teaching their employees how to compete at different levels. University of Phoenix makes a living for a lot of investors in grades for profit involving students companies send them who can’t compete; write, read, organize, manage or lead. If we were doing such a great job they would be out of business.
Community Colleges have many students that don’t know how to compete. They haven’t competed up to the point of college and now competing for jobs is almost foreign to them, not because of the jobs, but because they didn’t get the subtle or the explicate competitive approaches or experiences that are learned early on. The ‘help’ provided is to not let them come into contact with any consequences.
What is ‘entitlement’? It is what adults do to their children and what students learn that ensures that they do not have to compete to get what they want; they do not have to attend to what works and that they can get the same credit for ‘trying’ as for succeeding. They say it is for the children but it isn’t; its for them, the parents.
FFPS and similar organization institutionalize the entitlement. Learning to ride a bike you can get hurt. Get hurt??? No, we’ll cover you in Velcro pads so if your training wheels don’t protect you and you fall, you’ll not have to connect with any unpleasant consequences. Bad nightmares; bad marriages, bad jobs, bad DUI??? Shameful; you shouldn’t have to suffer. We’ll get you in a program where you are given the drug propranolol to eradicate the experience, or dampen the bad history or events. The louder the communities yell about the child, student, or young adult, the more and more it becomes about everything else but those groups.
For the things valued in life, there is way too many ‘self-referential’ content today and it is working to our dis-service, from families to the halls of Congress. That being said, for every virtue listed to reduce competitive activities, there is an equal and larger set that most of us see as a product of competition.
For the things valued in life, there is way too many ‘self-referential’ content today and it is working to our dis-service, from families to the halls of Congress. That being said, for every ‘virtue’ listed to reduce competitive activities, there is an equal and larger set of virtues that are a product of competition.
Here is just one option provided by the FFPS web site…
FFPS [Fun, Fair, Positive Soccer]
…to provide every youth soccer player with a positive experience. They saw the main problem as parents who put too much pressure on the kids to perform and the programs that emphasized winning as the main focus. They developed a system so the kids could play and enjoy the sport without demands from adults to win or perform. They modified the rules and designed a process of 5 aside rules, equal play with a unique equal substitution system, balanced teams, and parent training to ensure that it would be fair. The parents would behave and be positive so it would be really “Made For Kids”.
We wouldn’t want the kids to actually perform as in ‘do’ something…. Why not just take the nets and goalie away and have the kids run up and down the field…. I know that might look more like baby sitting but then again, no one would have to explain why the other team had more goals than your team did. Don’t drink the Cool Aide…